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Post by MamaMeg on Mar 29, 2011 11:33:56 GMT -5
I just read a thread about moms being friends in real life.. I don't know any of you guys in real life (that I know of, anyway). How do you meet other moms? Do you have get-togethers? Better question, how can I meet other moms??
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Post by kst2914 on Mar 29, 2011 11:43:16 GMT -5
The moms I know IRL i met on "that other site" but yes, playdates, meet for coffee, etc. Just find a couple of ppl you really feel like you could connect with and see if they want to meet up. I'm always up for meeting for lunch or coffee (not that you have to ask me lol) Once the weather warms up, playdates at the park are always fun.
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Post by indybg on Mar 29, 2011 11:43:20 GMT -5
Not sure about others, but I met one at one of the get togethers from a different site...The others I met for a short few minutes. I recognized them from their FB pictures (we became friends over there first).
We will have MNO in APril. I am planning on meeting others then. You should come.
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Post by bburgworkingmom on Mar 29, 2011 11:43:35 GMT -5
The first onliine mom friend I ever met was queenmary. One day I was bitching on-line about youth sports, she told mem to suck it up and enjoy it. Then a couple of days later our oldest sons found out what baseball teams they were on and I had the sneaking suspicion that they might be on the same team. Sure enough, they were on the same team. So, at the first practice I was wondering around stalking this woman I thought might be QM. And it was! She looks just like her pretty picture. We started talking and then our husbands met each other at another practice and started talking and it it has been a love-fest ever since.
I've met some others at get-togethers for that other site. Jendher and I figured out at some point that we worked in the same building. We started going to lunch. Then we decided to have a girls night with indymediamama.
I don't know, just figure out someone you want to meet and put yourself out there.
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Post by bouncyball on Mar 29, 2011 11:46:29 GMT -5
I know many because we created a crafting get together while on the other site. We see each other for other reasons also, but meet up for the crafting once a month, even though I rarely make it anymore. It is hard to believe that we started that group about three years ago!!!
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Post by MamaMeg on Mar 29, 2011 11:46:32 GMT -5
Not sure about others, but I met one at one of the get togethers from a different site...The others I met for a short few minutes. I recognized them from their FB pictures (we became friends over there first). We will have MNO in APril. I am planning on meeting others then. You should come. Please don't judge me but i have no idea what MNO is...I'm not hip to all of the cool language just yet.. ;D |
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Post by bburgworkingmom on Mar 29, 2011 11:50:18 GMT -5
MNO--Moms Night Out. Most critical to a mom's mental/emotional well-being.
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Post by chey on Mar 29, 2011 12:00:02 GMT -5
I have met several from the other site, have become really good friends with several..most are no longer a regular part of that site. Jill aka jillybeans and I first met when she came to the salon I was working at several years ago to get her hair cut. She also adopted one of my rescue puppies and now comes to my house to get her hair done. I get to meet indybg this week when she comes to get hair done! YAY! My kids schedules are so chaotic I don't get much chance to meet up at MNOs  . It's also hard with me being an older mom and having kids that span the spectrum to connect with some moms. But I love meeting new people and if anyone wants to come here and hang out while I do hair is welcome! |
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Post by ALF on Mar 29, 2011 12:47:34 GMT -5
I know a lot of the ladies from IndyMoms and the Shhh group. Everyone I have meet IRL has been at a MNO. I am FB friends with 3-4 that I haven't meet IRL.
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Post by MamaMeg on Mar 29, 2011 13:13:25 GMT -5
So, there is a MNO in April? What date? I'd love to go!!
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Post by JenS on Mar 29, 2011 13:15:03 GMT -5
I've either met the few I know at events from the other site or in one case she's a friend of a friend who both just happen to be on the other site also.
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Post by pitbull on Mar 29, 2011 13:22:22 GMT -5
Most of the moms I know, I met through the SHHH MNO. I've been going to that for over 2 years now and now consider many of those ladies pretty good friends.
A couple others a bit more randomly. I met ebee at the IMLM party at TCM back in October 2009. We became FB friends, but never really talked or anything after that. Fast forward to this past November, she was bumming about lack of family on Thanksgiving and I invited her to mine. Her family fit in great with mine, and we've hung out since then and she is becoming a good friend! We have a ton in common, including engineer husbands with identical personalities!
herbiej (who hasn't posted on either site lately but is around, just busy) was the first IMLM I met in real life. We started communicating via PM (I am also not much of a PMer) because she was seeing the same midwife as me, and were were just a few months apart in our pregnancies, and she went through a very similar scare with our first ultrasounds. We met in person shortly after DD was born - it was kinda funny because it felt like online dating - we met at a Starbucks. And now she is one of my closest friends in town. I even ended up having her work for me for a while.
I also have a couple ladies that are FB friends (via IMLM), that I still haven't met in real life (well one I met for literally one minute once), but I feel like they are "real" friends already!
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Post by MamaMeg on Mar 29, 2011 14:36:33 GMT -5
Most of the moms I know, I met through the SHHH MNO. I've been going to that for over 2 years now and now consider many of those ladies pretty good friends. A couple others a bit more randomly. I met ebee at the IMLM party at TCM back in October 2009. We became FB friends, but never really talked or anything after that. Fast forward to this past November, she was bumming about lack of family on Thanksgiving and I invited her to mine. Her family fit in great with mine, and we've hung out since then and she is becoming a good friend! We have a ton in common, including engineer husbands with identical personalities! herbiej (who hasn't posted on either site lately but is around, just busy) was the first IMLM I met in real life. We started communicating via PM (I am also not much of a PMer) because she was seeing the same midwife as me, and were were just a few months apart in our pregnancies, and she went through a very similar scare with our first ultrasounds. We met in person shortly after DD was born - it was kinda funny because it felt like online dating - we met at a Starbucks. And now she is one of my closest friends in town. I even ended up having her work for me for a while. I also have a couple ladies that are FB friends (via IMLM), that I still haven't met in real life (well one I met for literally one minute once), but I feel like they are "real" friends already! See, that's what I want...I just don't know how to do it. It's not easy for me to meet people. Believe it or not, I'm kinda shy and I always worry that people won't like me once they meet me..  |
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Post by indymusicmom on Mar 29, 2011 14:51:45 GMT -5
Don't rush it, see who you connect with/ have similarities with/ share interests with, etc. Most of the moms I have met have similar political or religious viewpoints to me (and my views are pretty strong) so that was a good starting point. There are a couple of groups that I went to MNOs with on the other site and many of the people from those groups are now on this site, so I'm lucky.
If you find meet-ups/MNOs you're interested in attending, that's a good way to break the ice and see who you do connect with, without it feeling like a date.
Are you new to Indy, or do you just not have many friends who are moms?
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Post by MamaMeg on Mar 29, 2011 15:22:00 GMT -5
Are you new to Indy, or do you just not have many friends who are moms? Not new, I've lived here basically my whole life. I have a few people I consider friends and a lot of acquaintances. I'm just kind of a home-body...with work, the husband, two kids and church stuff, I just don't get out much. Such a bore!! What I'm afraid of is looking like a dork by asking someone to meet for coffee or lunch. Silly, huh? |
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Post by kst2914 on Mar 29, 2011 15:36:48 GMT -5
Are you new to Indy, or do you just not have many friends who are moms? Not new, I've lived here basically my whole life. I have a few people I consider friends and a lot of acquaintances. I'm just kind of a home-body...with work, the husband, two kids and church stuff, I just don't get out much. Such a bore!! What I'm afraid of is looking like a dork by asking someone to meet for coffee or lunch. Silly, huh? Not silly at all. I still worry about that, but I've learned that if I want to get to know ppl I have to come out of my shell. |
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Post by ALF on Mar 29, 2011 16:34:43 GMT -5
I just started going to MNO's about 14 months ago and it was the best thing I ever did. I literally had 1 friend. Now, I have several good friend and several others that I am pretty sure would be there if I needed them, and definately vice versa.
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Post by rlpett79 on Mar 29, 2011 16:46:22 GMT -5
I am close to McCordsville so maybe we can get together sometime. I am always up for meeting new peeps!
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Post by jillybean on Mar 29, 2011 18:00:19 GMT -5
Ive met a few from the other site, some I know irl.. because either they do my hair or I clean houses for them. Other then that.. I am just waiting in line and wondering who is who
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Post by pitbull on Mar 29, 2011 18:47:40 GMT -5
Most of the moms I know, I met through the SHHH MNO. I've been going to that for over 2 years now and now consider many of those ladies pretty good friends. A couple others a bit more randomly. I met ebee at the IMLM party at TCM back in October 2009. We became FB friends, but never really talked or anything after that. Fast forward to this past November, she was bumming about lack of family on Thanksgiving and I invited her to mine. Her family fit in great with mine, and we've hung out since then and she is becoming a good friend! We have a ton in common, including engineer husbands with identical personalities! herbiej (who hasn't posted on either site lately but is around, just busy) was the first IMLM I met in real life. We started communicating via PM (I am also not much of a PMer) because she was seeing the same midwife as me, and were were just a few months apart in our pregnancies, and she went through a very similar scare with our first ultrasounds. We met in person shortly after DD was born - it was kinda funny because it felt like online dating - we met at a Starbucks. And now she is one of my closest friends in town. I even ended up having her work for me for a while. I also have a couple ladies that are FB friends (via IMLM), that I still haven't met in real life (well one I met for literally one minute once), but I feel like they are "real" friends already! See, that's what I want...I just don't know how to do it. It's not easy for me to meet people. Believe it or not, I'm kinda shy and I always worry that people won't like me once they meet me.. Oh, hon, you can get there if you want to. I am lucky that I've always had some best friends, but I can still sympathize because it's just plain hard for anyone to make friends as an adult, I think. I also lived in a different city for a couple years in my late 20s and we had NO friends there and it sucked. Big ditto to the things indymusicmom said. It does take time. I think sometimes people get frustrated because they want it now, but it's something that you have to kind of let happen, though you also need to put yourself out there to get it started. But then you have to let it develop. Three years ago, I really just had one good friend locally, and I've known her for 15 years. So all these friendships have developed over a few years. When I first went to the SHHH MNO, I knew nobody, and wasn't really sure if I would be liked. Luckily, most of them can handle me and my "big" personality. The first couple times I hung out with herbiej IRL, it really was like the online dating thing, because there was that little bit of awkwardness at first. It was kind of funny. I also majorly ditto looking for people who you mesh with. I think a lot of people made the mistake on the other site of thinking that just because the other person was an IMLM, they would be friends. Heck no. Pretty much all my friends that I have made online that became IRL friends are ones that I have a lot of philosophical similarities with. And trust me, most of the moms on that other site I never had any interest whatsoever in being friends with.  So my advice is focus on the ladies you seem to really mesh with online, put yourself out there at first, then kind of let it ride, and don't push TOO hard or get too hung up on turning it into a big close friendship right away. |
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. It's also hard with me being an older mom and having kids that span the spectrum to connect with some moms. But I love meeting new people and if anyone wants to come here and hang out while I do hair is welcome!
